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The week after our first date, I had my second date with a tall, handsome guy. The pace was good.

On this day, we met for lunch in Hibiya.

He found another great restaurant...

Wait, that's perfect!

Why is he looking for a partner?

We then walked around the Imperial Palace. He explained the history of the bronze statue in the park, so I asked him, "You know a lot. Which university did you go to?" (It's too late now.) He didn't disclose the name of his university on his profile.

"That's right, there's something I need to tell you about that..." "There are three things I need to tell you if I want to continue dating you." Huh. What?

1. "I go to pachinko sometimes"

→ I like casinos, so if I can get away with it while traveling, pachinko is okay if I go sometimes. By the way, my ex-husband was a bald loser who lost millions when he was a student. "Isn't it okay if it's just once in a while?" I replied.

2. "I smoke a little bit of e-cigarettes."

→My ex-husband was a heavy smoker, so I have no objection to e-cigarettes. Actually, I know because it was on his profile. "I want you to be careful about your health, but... some of my friends smoke, and I don't mind the smell of e-cigarettes," he replied.

3. "There is a religion that my family believes in. I graduated from a university affiliated with that religion."

OMG. This is the one thing I have no knowledge or experience of, and the store is closed and the shutters are empty. "Aren't you going to quit?" I replied (too straightforward). "Because my parents would be sad..." I agree, I hope you cherish your parents who raised you so well above all else.

My mind went blank and I was thinking about what to do

・Does my spouse have to join?

・What kind of activities will they be involved in

I walked around the square in front of the Imperial Palace asking various questions lol

There is no rule that says that his wife and children have to join, and he himself doesn't do any activities.

While I'm not sure whether I'll accept it or not, I agree for now.

Oh, since he said something so difficult to say, I should tell him about myself too. I confessed that last year I accidentally got married to a bald scumbag and got divorced at the speed of light, and I was seriously mentally ill but have only recently recovered. He was kind and understanding, saying that it must have been difficult.

We then changed the subject and talked about various things, and had dinner, and as we were leaving he said, "Actually, I'm waiting for someone else to respond to our serious relationship, but I want to be serious with you, Emi."

I was very happy that he accepted my terrible past and said something like that.

However, I thought that maybe he was in a bit of a hurry. I had to give him an answer while he was waiting. So that night I called my parents for a family meeting. The next morning I had a meeting with my counselor. After much thought, the answer I came up with was, as expected, difficult.

- My family, including myself, does not understand religion.

- It will take a long time for everyone to understand, and even if we take the time, I can't guarantee that we will be able to get married.

I carefully chose my words to convey these points and sent him a rejection message on LINE. He called me right away and said he wanted a little more time, but all I could say was "I'm sorry." I wasn't able to explain it well on the phone, so I don't know if he was satisfied with my answer.

After I hung up the phone, he sent me a few messages saying "Please wait a little longer," but I was crying so hard that I stopped replying. He probably thought I had blocked him during that time, and he blocked me^^; (The rule at the agency is to delete contacts and block LINE messages after a relationship ends.)

I hope I was able to convey my feelings. It's been a while since I've fallen in love with someone purely.

And so I restarted my search for a marriage partner.